When you focus on the past or the future obsessively, you get stressed. And stress is such a buzz kill! Nothing will bring you down quicker than feeling stressed out. It keeps you from sleeping well, staying productive, and getting in a good mood. You can pretty safely conclude that reducing stress increases happiness. One of the best ways to bring your stress levels down and increase your joy is to mediate.Continue reading →
One of the solutions to living a happier and more content life is to learn to live in the moment. You don’t want to miss out on all the amazing little things life has in store for you because you are too busy worrying and agonizing about things that are outside of your control. The goal then for a happier life is to learn to live in the moment. Remember, neither the past nor the future actually exist. Only now matters.Continue reading →
I find myself looking at and listening to people more closely; I pay more attention to their actions, their words, and their (expressed) feelings, and how that seems to correlate. It’s been interesting and has given me some fresh perspectives on this whole happiness thing.
Something that’s stood out in the past few weeks is that the people that seem the most unsatisfied with their life and the least happy are the ones that spend a lot of their time and energy complaining.
Some people are great about finding the positive in any situation and telling you about it. They are the types of bosses, coworkers, teachers, and friends who will give you some constructive criticism while pointing out everything you’ve done right, even if the project or situation turns out to be a total mess. You want to seek them out, because they will lift you up when you need a boost.Continue reading →
There are all sorts of things you can do to boost your confidence. We’ll run through a few of them here. I also encourage you to read up on the topic, pay attention to times when you’re feeling more confident, and then work out a plan to intentionally boost your self-confidence based on your own research and experience. Remember, we’re building habits, and confidence goes hand-in-hand with happiness!Continue reading →
Making sure you get sufficient rest can help you feel more energized. You get more done, which boosts your self-confidence and your overall happiness. Making sure you get your beauty rest makes a lot of sense. I’m sure you’ve seen this in action. When you don’t sleep well, or don’t get a chance to get enough rest, you end up grumpy and agitated, right?. You’re now in a cycle where your stress levels go way up, which makes you feel worse. You don’t get work done, or it’s done less than well, you start to feel depressed and that leads to more sleepless nights. It’s a nasty, vicious cycle. And yet, I see over and over people making sleep their LAST priority.
If you can break that cycle and make sleep Priority Number One, everything changes for the better. You’ll wake up in a great mood and ready to tackle the day. You’ll get work and chores done and still have time to relax and unwind. That leads to a better night sleep, and an even better morning the next day.
When you’re having a bad day or are feeling down, the best way to increase your happiness may be to exercise. Research has demonstrated strong links between exercise and an uplift in mood and well-being. Give it a try. Go for a 30 minute brisk walk whenever you’re feeling depressed and unhappy. You’ll notice your mood starting to increase throughout the walk. When you get back, you may notice that you’re feeling, if not happier, less down.Continue reading →
Have you heard of the expression: “Fake It ‘Till You Make It?” You usually hear it in the business or entertainment worlds. The idea is that if you look like a success, others around you will treat you like a successful person, and will send more projects and opportunities your way. At some point you can stop faking it because you’ve become what you’ve pretended to be. “Faking” in this context isn’t as phony as it sounds. What you are really doing is modeling behaviors until you’ve internalized them.Continue reading →
Life isn’t all happiness and sunshine. And that’s a good thing. (WHA-A-A-T!!) How boring would it be to only have positive experiences? We need a little of the negative, the sadness, and the disappointments to balance the happiness. They are what make the happy times stand out and shine all the brighter.
Negative thoughts, emotions, and the events and people that cause them are part of life. You can to learn to deal with them and make the best of sad situations to live a happy and content life. Today I want to look at a few different ideas and strategies that can help us do just that.
Why can’t we hold on to the good stuff? Our brains turn out to have a bias to negativity. It’s measurable, and there have been multiple brain scan studies done that show that our brain reacts more strongly to negative stimuli. The big question then is how do we fight against our brain’s bias to negativity?Continue reading →