Since starting this 30 Day Happiness Challenge here on the blog and via email, I’ve been a lot more aware of the happiness of the people around me. I’m sure you’ve experienced the same thing. I find myself looking at and listening to people more closely; I pay more attention to their actions, their words, and their (expressed) feelings, and how that seems to correlate. It’s been interesting and has given me some fresh perspectives on this whole happiness thing.
Something that’s stood out in the past few weeks is that the people that seem the most unsatisfied with their life and the least happy are the ones that spend a lot of their time and energy complaining. I’m sure you have a few of those people in your life as well. They are too busy talking about how horrible their life is that they don’t have any time left to do something about it. Or maybe they’d rather complain than change things. It’s like they own their misery, and they’re not only going to keep it, but they’re willing to rent it out to everyone within earshot! Either way, the solution seems to be simple. Stop complaining and start taking action.
Stop and Start
We all have times when we complain about one thing or another. Sometimes we do it in our heads, sometimes we vent with a close friend or family member. We grumble, or (if you’re like me) talk loudly and wave hands in the air to get it off our chest, and that alone makes us feel a little better. That’s all good, provided complaining isn’t all we do. Sure, some of the time when we complain, we feel better, and the situation resolves itself. But there are other times when things won’t get better and we won’t feel happier in the long run unless we do something.
If you’re not happy in your job, start looking for a different position or even change companies. If you’re not happy with your salary and it doesn’t give you the funds to do what you want in life, work towards that promotion, take some classes, and do whatever it takes to start earning more. If you are stuck in a relationship that makes you unhappy, work on it, or take the action to move on. If you’re not happy with how your kids are acting, work on your parenting skills, and work with your kids to make things better. If you’re not happy with the way you look and feel, start eating healthier and get outside for some fresh air and exercise. Take at least one step toward changing.
As a coach, I hear it frequently – “but my situation is different – I can’t just..” . But as a coach, and especially as a Law of Attraction coach, I can tell you this: it’s truly amazing how much you can shape your life for the better once you stop complaining and start taking action. What are you going to do today to make your life better and increase your long-term happiness?